JC Calendar loves featuring our Man of the Month every month and this month is no exception. Our man of the month, J, comes all the way from Denver, Colorado. Check out as he talks about commitment, romance, and his passion in life.
J: Why, I'm just swell, thank you.
Calendar: Could you give our audience some quick stats on you including your name, age your hometown?
J: I'm J, I turned 27 last Sunday, and I'm currently living in Denver, Colorado.
Calendar: Describe your idea oh what makes the perfect partner/lover?
J: I think there are a lot of contributing factors in finding the perfect mate. In my relationships, I look for trust, attraction, chemistry, acceptance, and ultimately a shared morality. For example, I am very anti-drug. And though I don't judge people for using/abusing drugs, such behavior would likely complicate a romantic relationship because certain differences of that nature can and do strain relationships.
Calendar: What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
J: I'm very turned on by someone who takes care of themselves. If they eat right, condition their bodies with a sport or basic exercise, I’m very attracted or at least impressed often times envious. I'm big on beautiful eyes and smiles and a nice butt. I like someone who reads. Reading is sexy. I like a guy who's clean, but not obsessive-compulsive. And one who likes to learn and grow as a person. I'm attracted to those who are passionate about something. Intellectually, I appreciate someone who is artistic or creative either visually or linguistically. And I'm also turned on by low-sagging pants. (lol)
I'm very turned off by people who pay TOO much attention to the way they look. The vain, self-centered, conceited, narcissistic variety of guy that is all too common in my little world. I'm turned off by the "clones" who’s all wearing their collars popped and their hair bleached and squished into a faux hawk. I'm turned off by the dramatics who’s flamboyantly need to draw attention to them and cause problems for others. And guys who don't tip when dealing with someone in the service industry? Yeah. That's a no-no.
Calendar: What is your passion in life?
J: Creation. I haven't quite found my groove yet, but I like to make things. I like to write. I'm leaning toward writing for film and/or graphic novels. And though both are considerably hard fields to break into, I still manage to find comfort in experiencing both genres. My free time is either in a gym, in a movie theater, or with my nose in a comic book.
Calendar: I love reading and collecting comics too.
Calendar: Are you single or involved?
J: Well that's hard to say. I'm somewhat involved with someone. We haven't exactly set rules or given our interactions a "title." But we both enjoy one another's company and have explosive chemistry both in and out of the bedroom. And we have fun. We like each other. And we're happy. Despite everything else, aren't those factors the ones that matter the most?
Calendar: What do you think is the most important quality do you seek in a partner/lover?
J: Toleration and Understanding. I fly off a handle sometimes, but I know I have a keeper if he's patient with me, lets me work things out for myself, and is waiting for me when it's time to work them out with each other. And acceptance is key. I need someone who will accept me for who I am and not try to change me, or make me dress differently, or get a different job. People have tried and failed. That's just not who I am. If it's meant to be, they we'll just meet in the middle.
Calendar: What do you find sexy in a partner/lover?
J: Someone who can make me laugh. It lightens everything up, from arguments, to sex, to anything, really. If we can play off of each other when we joke, it raises the sexual tension another notch. And someone who is open minded, and can try new things with me. Adventure is sexy. I will assume this question wasn't meant physically, because I could have gone on forever with that one...
Calendar: If you had three wishes, what would it be?
J: I would go back and change things in my life, for one. I know I wouldn't be the same person if I could go back and change things, but that's still my biggest wish. Not to say that I'm not happy with who I am, but I just think that I could've done more for myself and others if I'd done things differently or smarter. Or sooner, even.
My second wish would be to fix the economy. I would make it so that people could afford things again. We could spoil ourselves every once in a while. Life wouldn't be such a struggle to survive, but instead we could find ourselves and not lose sleep at night wondering if our jobs were going to be sent overseas the next day. Stability would come back. We could actually spend 25 years at a company and have a career instead of living day to day, pay check to pay check, job to job.
My third wish would be to have the funds to get myself together. Finish film school. Maybe even other schools as well. I'd have time and resources to get projects seen, heard, and off the ground. And if that didn't work, I'd wish I was a Superhero. Yeah, everyone saw that one coming...
